The work takes the form of a memoir-cum-essay collection. Indeed, why should bisexuals have to buy into the idea there’s something wrong with liking sex or being unsure of one’s identity? And I want to ask, why do we have to work by their rules? If we’re saying, ‘No, we’re not confused no, we’re not promiscuous no, we’re not greedy,’ then we accept that it’s wrong to be confused, it’s wrong to be greedy, it’s wrong to be promiscuous. Winston approvingly quotes fellow bisexual feminist Shiri Eisner: Greedy is a book about being a walking stereotype and knowing it. It’s not long before she’s in her match’s bed.

But Jen, “a thirty-two-year-old white woman whose AIM handle was once jennibaby069,” knows the rulebook for heterosexual dating by heart, so she takes the easy option. Yes, she has recently come out as bisexual and subsequently sworn off dating men. On the next page, Jen receives a follow-up message, and her desire for male validation takes over. Upon receiving a one-word text from a mediocre man on a dating app, Winston leads the reader through her thought process: She wants to behave like someone with self-respect, therefore, she will not text him back. Jen Winston’s debut essay collection, Greedy: Notes from a Bisexual Who Wants Too Much, begins with a scene in which she is gazing at her topless reflection in the mirror with her phone to hand.

Greedy notes from a bisexual